His family...

Yesterday I was at my husbands side as he buried his mother. He has been amazingly held together since she died last week but I cant help but wonder if/when the other shoe is gonna fall. I have been fortunate enough to not have to deal with grief directly, or maybe I have but I dealt with it differently. My grandmother died 1 1/2yrs ago and she & I were close [@ one time] but I think I looked at her death as an end to a fulfilled life. She had a good life and a long one, but she was my grandmother, not my mom. I expect my husband will, indeed, grieve somehow, somewhere just in his own time. When I spoke to him about it he agreed.
It was good to see his family again. I feel as though I have been too immature in the past few years to see the great qualities they possess. I was telling my mom that they are serious about their love for each other & that it was very evident in the men. ALL of the men in the family are there for their wife and kids. It was almost like a 'pack mentality' because they made sure ALL kids were cared for, not just their own. There is a certain security in a home when daddys there (doing his job) & mommy has his back and my husbands family exudes that 100%! Not only does it make me secure knowing that I have a man that was brought up like that, but it makes me glad to know that my son has these expectations on him & will be held accountable to follow in the same shoes. My daughters can see what a whole family is and how it is supposed to function. They were soo happy to see their cousins from far away but even though it has been years, for some, they fell into enjoying each others company like they had been together from birth. They went to bed talking about the fun they had & I know they are building lasting memories. I see Jack looking at his [many] strong older male cousins (who because of the age difference are more like his uncles) & he looks up to them. I am blessed to have married into a wonderful family even though throughout the years I have been too blind to see it.
All of these lives were from the one seed that we buried yesterday. How awesome it must have been for her to look over that through out the years & see her work. I did not know my husbands father as he died when my husband was 11 yrs old but I do not want to exclude him from this praise because it was from him also that the men knew how to treat their wife & kids. My husband has credited his father, his brother & his brother in laws for showing him how to be a good man & he credits his daddy God for showing him how to be a great man.
So to the children & grandchildren of Mrs. Eloise Bowie I want to again offer my condolences for your loss. I know she will live on in you many stories.